Escort Etiquette

You know when you’re scoping out a new fancy restaurant you sometimes take a look into the dress code? Escorts have sort of the same thing; with a lot of escorts detailing a list of etiquette rules that you can, and should, follow in order to make the whole experience more positive and pleasant for both parties involved. In the same way that you need to check if you need to wear dress shoes, or if you need to swap your jeans for something a bit more formal when heading off to a new dining establishment, you should check that your etiquette is going to be on point when visiting an escort to avoid being kicked to the curb.

Basic etiquette tends to remain the same, so we’ll start with that. Make sure you’re preparing as if you were preparing for a date where you were expecting sex; just because you’re paying, it doesn’t mean you can slack on the hygiene – check that your nails and toenails are neatly trimmed, your teeth are brushes and you’ve had a shower or bath (though remember to brush your teeth more than 1 and a half hours prior to your appointment to prevent heightened risk of STD’s passed orally).

Other basic etiquette is just avoiding being rude, or making things awkward. Don’t ask your escort how many appointments have come before you in the day, don’t ask about family or other halves, don’t try to haggle the price down, just be generally kind and courteous. One wise escort tells us that she knows when you pee in her shower, and this means that she has to bleach the shower between each person using it – so, generally, use the toilet and not the shower, if you wouldn’t tend to do that. Generally it seems just being a non-nosy, hygienic human being covers the majority of the basic etiquette.

As for more tailored etiquette – most escorts will have their own rules. Whether these rules include taking your shoes off at the door, not ringing the doorbell or calling twenty minutes before you arrive? Chances are, they’ve come up with these rules of etiquette for a reason, and it’s not just to make your experience harder, but to ensure that she is as safe and comfortable as she can be in the circumstances. Don’t just skip over etiquette rules because the escort in question is perfect; take the etiquette requests as hard lines that you’re not to cross, and if you absolutely cannot get by without crossing one – the escort in question isn’t for you.

All in all – if you wouldn’t turn up to a bar in trainers when they specifically requested that you don’t (and will more than likely kick you out if you do), don’t turn up to visit an escort knowing that you’re going to do the things that she’s specifically requested that you don’t. Etiquette is there for a reason, and the more you follow it, the better your time with an escort will be.

The history of escorting

Escorting and prostitution have been around since the dawn of time – or since the dawn of humanity, at least. Sex work has a long and coloured past, and doesn’t seem to be slowing down so we’re taking a look at the history behind one of the most lucrative business types.

The word ‘prostitute’ originally came from Latin and has been carried through multiple languages, still existing in modern day Western society. However, since the 1970s sex workers and activists reject the term prostitute and use ‘sex worker’ as a blanket term – although not all escorts are prostitutes, as prostitution refers mostly to the sale of sex. When it comes to escorts, you’re actually paying for their time rather than the sexual act or acts.

Escorting and prostitution have occurred throughout history in Ancient Greece, Ancient Rome, the Middle Ages and right up to the present day, with it even being a prominent feature in biblical stories. It hasn’t always been as suave as it is now, of course, but many references to the act of paying for sex and sexual acts, as well as time spent together, have been found in historical paintings, writing and pottery.

Naturally, prostitution itself gave way to wanting someone to spend time with, someone to have on your arm or take out to dinner: it became about friendship and counselling more than dirty motel-room hook ups. Escorting is the classy daughter of prostitution: not something just for a quick fix, escorts can often have long-term clients who take advantage of their multiple services.

It also quickly became about income: with society coming to value designer labels and fast cars, having the finer things in life grew in importance. Whereas prostitution seemed to be about rolls of notes that didn’t last long, escorting soon became a way to pay the bills and spoil yourself with jewellery, the latest gadgets and more. It remains that way: escorts can charge more than prostitutes as their services are much wider and more interesting, as well as a lot safer – so you’re getting what you pay for.

Escort agencies quickly realised they could get around the law, too, by advertising their service as arranging meetings between escorts and clients – whatever happened during that meeting, between the two consenting adults, was only between the two consenting adults. That way, if things go wrong and laws are broken, the agency can claim they had no idea about what was really going on. Escorting involves skirting around the various laws, of course, but it always has done.

Sex work has changed since the Ancient Greeks engaged in it, but essentially it will always remain the same: the desire to spend time with people, to socialise or be counselled or have sex, will never go away. Escorts provide a safe, easy and enjoyable way to fulfil that desire without the traditional seediness that comes alongside prostitution – and while history hasn’t always been kind to the sex work industry, it lives on.

Does What Your Body Looks Like Matter To An Escort?

For many human beings, it’s a natural reaction to be at least slightly unsure when it comes to your body and how you feel about it – and this lack of self-confidence can prove an issue when it comes to seeking out an escort. A commonly asked question on just about any internet forum pertaining to booking an escort is whether they will care about your body and whether or not that you’re in shape – so does it really matter to an escort? Is it a deal breaker? Or is it only something that we worry about, that an escort has no real interest in?

The first thing to remember if that as exciting, loving and engaging as it can feel, is this is a business transaction to escorts. They want to make sure that you feel safe and comfortable and have a really good time, and they’re more focusing on pleasing you, and having you engage with them on the day to ensure that you get the best of your experience, that they probably aren’t really looking too much into what your body looks like, which probably isn’t as bad as you think it does in the first place.

The thing to remember is that the escort isn’t there to judge your body, but rather to fulfil a request that you’ve paid for – and after reading many answers to this question from many, many different escorts and ex-escorts and the general concensus seems to be that, whilst they aren’t really phased by any bodies that you’ve seen, there definitely are some things to be said by your attitude, and this is likely to put you into bad books, whereas chances are nothing about your appearance ever really could.

However, it is worth noting that, whereas nothing about your physical appearance is likely to make an escort turn you away, poor hygiene and general physical issues like this might be. A few extra pounds around your waste are unlikely to be a complete deal breaker, but turning up unwashed, with long dirty nails and toenails are a whole different story – and this is much more likely to upset your escort than anything else about your physical appearance. Though you don’t need to be a supermodel, you do need to be clean and well presented in order to make everyone feel clean, comfortable and raring to go.

So in short; the answer about whether your physical appearance matters to an escort in no – at least within reason. Whereas physical imperfections are unlikely to make an escort turn you down, poor hygiene is and so – it’s worth taking care of your physical appearance at least at a basic level, just the same as you would for a general date. So in conclusion; you don’t need to have made good use of your gym membership before you book in with an escort, but a shower and a nail trim definitely wouldn’t do you any harm.